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Sometimes God, the Universe or just Something does Answer.

Posted 29th September 2011 at 12:50 PM by Perpetual Man

The last four days have been as close to hell as I would have liked.

Like everyone I have had good times in my life and bad, but those last four days... well I could have done without them. If I have an ulcer I would not be surprised.

On Sunday night my wife noticed a slight abnormality linked to her pregnancy that led to a dash to the emergency doctors, that led to an uncomfortable examination with all kind of words being thrown around, most of which went over our heads in that moment; but such concepts as fibroids, multiple birth, pregnancy further along than believed, early signs of miscarriage to actual miscarriage.

There was nothing that could be done until a scan could be set up, the earliest which could be arranged was today, Thursday morning.

Its impossible to say what state of mind you are in when it lasts 4 long days. Stressed? Yes. Overly emotional? Yes. And that was just me, goodness knows how bad it was for my wife.

On top of that there is Harry. How on Earth do you keep the emotional state away from a nearly three year old? Of course he picked up on it and has been acting up which has made things even worse.

Ive tried to be calm for them, but it was only a cover of thin ice, and once or twice I could feel it cracking.

I am religious, just not in a conventional manner, and Im not ashamed to say Ive had a few words with the Big Guy over the last few days. Did not get any answers this time, but once in a lifetime is pretty good going or perhaps I did.

This morning was horrendous, bundling Harry off to his grandparents. Driving to hospital. Waiting.

And then having to watch my wife go through a simple procedure and having to wait as the doctor watched a screen, tense, dreading the worst praying for the best

The relief of her words as she said, Two arms, two legs, head and a strong, steady heartbeat, was immeasurable, and possibly one of the greatest sentences I have ever had the pleasure of hearing.

All those fears washed away.

At the moment Im drowning in relief, Im pretty sure elation or something similar will follow.
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    Talysia's Avatar
    I can't even begin to imagine what you've been going through, but I'm so pleased that everything has worked out well.
    Posted 29th September 2011 at 02:39 PM by Talysia Talysia is offline
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    Perpetual Man's Avatar
    Thanks Talysia. Greatly appreciated.
    Posted 29th September 2011 at 03:28 PM by Perpetual Man Perpetual Man is online now
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    Ursa major's Avatar
    I can't imagine how you've be feeling these last four days, Perp, but I know you must be more than relieved at those heartening words from the doctor. Yours must be one of the UK's happiest households this afternoon.
    Posted 29th September 2011 at 03:56 PM by Ursa major Ursa major is online now
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    Rooky's Avatar
    Hi Perp, I am so sorry to hear that your wife, Harry and you have been going through hell but; thank God that all is well. And I really do mean that! Praying to God is an awesome gift given to us through Christ. And, He answers all our prayers, it's just that sometimes we don't like His answer. I am so pleased all is well, when is Harry's little brother or sister due to arrive? Not that they ever arrive on time, they tend to come when they want to and not before; so called due dates are less reliable than a virgin train! Anyway, keep praying Perp, and, rest assured that Mr & Mrs CTG will be praying with you! Sending my very best wishes and blessings to you, Harry and Mrs Perp! xxxx
    Posted 29th September 2011 at 08:20 PM by Rooky Rooky is offline
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    Gary Compton's Avatar
    Great news PM. I'm happy for you and your wife and my prayers are with your baby. God bless.
    Posted 29th September 2011 at 09:25 PM by Gary Compton Gary Compton is offline
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    Teresa Edgerton's Avatar
    I"m so sorry you had to go through all that, and glad to hear that the news was good. I'll be praying for an easy pregnancy from this point on, and an easy delivery.
    Posted 29th September 2011 at 09:36 PM by Teresa Edgerton Teresa Edgerton is offline
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    StormFeather's Avatar
    I've been thinking about you all day, and am so very glad that you got those simple words from the doctor that changed everything for the better. Having been in similar circumstances I appreciate just how your life goes on hold while you wait for the news that will send your future in one direction or another.

    Take good care of Mrs Perp, cuddle Harry lots, and sing to that growing bump. We'll all be sending you and yours positive thoughts over the coming months
    Posted 29th September 2011 at 09:59 PM by StormFeather StormFeather is offline
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    Parson's Avatar
    Being religious in a "conventional way" I would say you did indeed get an answer. I will be praying in my "conventional" way that things go smoothly from here out.

    (We had a miscarriage years ago and so have some insight into the process and the emotions that go with it.)
    Posted 29th September 2011 at 10:52 PM by Parson Parson is online now
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    TheDustyZebra's Avatar
    Wow, that has to have been utterly terrifying for you guys! Four days is just torture. I'm glad it's worked out ok -- here's to continuing good health and good fortune with your upcoming little one.
    Posted 30th September 2011 at 12:28 AM by TheDustyZebra TheDustyZebra is online now
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    Perpetual Man's Avatar
    Thanks for all the good thoughts everyone, and thank you for taking the time to respond - I know that everyone has stuff going on in their lives as well.

    Ursa - you could pretty much say that we were quite happy yesterday. Even Harry picked up on it and his mood improved significantly.

    Mr & Mrs CTG . We are all most thankful for your thoughts and prayers. The baby is due next year, probably March/April time. As you say the baby seems to have a mind of it's own when it comes to arriving. Harry was nearly a month early so... this one will probably go in the other direction and we'll still be waiting at the start of May!

    Stormfeather - Sorry I kept you waiting over the course of the day! I would sing to the baby, but I think they call that a cruel and unusual punishment in some countries!

    Parson - Many thanks, you are right it was a direct answer. I think the way I phrased it was not as good as it could be, but that is what I meant. I think I was terrified of the miscarriage scenario, although I cannot remember it, I know my mum suffered quite a few - and even now you can see how badly that (but not just that) hurt her, some 35 years later. There was no way I could tell Mrs Perp about that.

    Gary, Teresa and TDZ thank you as well, as I say all the thoughts and prayers are so greatly appreciated.
    Posted 30th September 2011 at 10:59 AM by Perpetual Man Perpetual Man is online now
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    Perpetual Man's Avatar
    I read the comments out to Mrs Perp, a little earlier, and she asked to thank everyone as well. She felt that the words and support were so lovely it just needed to be said again.

    Se was suitably touched and all emotional.
    Posted 1st October 2011 at 12:43 PM by Perpetual Man Perpetual Man is online now
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    Mouse's Avatar
    Phew. Glad everything's ok, Tim.
    Posted 1st October 2011 at 07:36 PM by Mouse Mouse is offline
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    Perpetual Man's Avatar
    Thanks Mouse. (Love the new avatar - sort of miss the blue one at the same time)
    Posted 1st October 2011 at 09:43 PM by Perpetual Man Perpetual Man is online now
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    Mouse's Avatar
    Ta. I might change back yet, just playing around.
    Posted 1st October 2011 at 10:12 PM by Mouse Mouse is offline
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    Hex's Avatar
    I just read this. How awful that you had to suffer it -- and for so long -- how come it took FOUR DAYS to set up a straight-forward scan to give you peace of mind?! Grrr. But I'm so so glad to hear everything's fine.
    Posted 2nd October 2011 at 10:05 PM by Hex Hex is offline
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    Perpetual Man's Avatar
    Thanks Hex.

    The scan thing did seem to take a long time (it felt even longer), but I tried to hope that the reason it was not done immediately was because the doctor did not see anything that warranted an immediate scanning - or it might have spooked Mrs P. more than she already was.
    Posted 2nd October 2011 at 10:14 PM by Perpetual Man Perpetual Man is online now
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    Hex's Avatar
    I bet it felt like a million years. You're right, I suppose the doctor would have made sure it was an urgent scan if they'd really been really worried. But as soon as they start mentioning 'miscarriage' they can't expect you to be remotely calm.
    We had a heartbeat scare last pregnancy -- it was horrible when the mw sent me off to hospital, but at least it was the same day. It took me two hours to arrange babysitting and get to ERI, but it felt much much longer.
    Posted 3rd October 2011 at 12:00 PM by Hex Hex is offline

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