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Originally Posted by Nesacat  Yes we do Gully. I wish we didn't have to learn in this way but maybe that is necessary too. |
Cat... this is the only way any living thing learns; it's the only way it
can, ultimately (short of some divine being -- or future geneticist -- encoding the information into the genes). And, without it, we wouldn't take the chances or the risks that bring us so much joy (as well as pain) and advance the species. So, painful as it indeed sometimes is... it really is the best way for us to learn. (Which doesn't mean I don't weep and piss and moan when it happens to me same as everybody else; but it's still the best way....)
As for the general topic... depends on how much you, as well as the other person, are willing to respect (and, dare I say it? enjoy) the differences as well as the similarities between you. Some things will always be foreign to one or the other of you; some things you may learn to like and even relish in common; some you'll share to begin with. (While it's true that "opposites attract" quite often, in order for a relationship to work there have to be enough similarities for a decent amount of common ground. Otherwise, once the hormones quiet down you quickly fray each others' nerves to the point of sheer repulsion....) So... like so many things, it depends on the individual.....