| Re: Can you date a non-fan?
As regarding the dating side, I'm possibly the worst person to ask, as essentially I never have.
Still, I keep friendships as long as most people maintain marriages, I'll base my position on this.
It would seem that communication is one of our species' strong points (foresight definitely isn't) and it is very convenient to have a range of subjects in common with a partner to converse upon; the state of the weather and the health of offspring wear out fairly fast. Not many of my friends seriously read speculative fiction, so I am forced to have knowledge on other matters (doesn't require much force – I'm still inquisitive about just about everything). Before discovering the web I didn't know anyone with an interest aproaching my own, but this didn't turn me into a total hermit. Quite.
So, if the "fan" in your description is a genuine abreviation of "fanatic" and you are totally focussed on SFF to the exclusion of all other interests (apart, one assumes, of low-communication biological ones) it would seem wiser to find someone who shares this viewpoint, albeit to a lesser degree, otherwise discussions risk becoming extremely boring.
If, on the other hand, SFF is one facet of a wider ranging personality, I can see no reason to reject someone simply because not all the cogs mesh; after all, with how many people is this latter going to occur? |