Originally Posted by Rosemary
Why do some young ladies think it is nice to wear a pretty summer dress and black boots at the same time?
Is it bad if you are almost 30 and doing that? I love my knee high mudkickers, they have nice thick soles and I can stomp in the spring time mud running after my heathen brood. Plus, they are great for stepping on spiders.
Anyways, is this thread about men or women?
I don't know if I know anything about men, but what I do know is that all men are big teenage boys. The toys might have changed, but most guys will buy toys before underwear and socks. That is why men need a women, to make sure they have clean boy panties and dry thick socks so they don't get foot slime. I also know that men are just as fragile and emotional as women, they just react differently to stressors. And I know that most men will not shower regularly unless they have a woman to tell them they have too or they are trying to get a woman. Or mayhaps its just the type of men I know, neither of my ex's or my current man will shower more than once a week unless I flat out told them too. Once again proving that men are big teenagers.
Oh, and girls, remember, men might not freak out and cry and express themselves like women, but they still feel the same things women do. So when your man is being silent and seemingly uncaring, he is probably just thinking through his emotions.
Also, one thing I have noticed about men. They like to fix things and protect things, generally speaking. This is usually nice, I mean I don't want to replace the starter even though I could, but really guys, sometimes women don't need you to fix anything. Sometimes we just need you to listen. I think this is just the way a lot of men's brains are wired. They see something or feel something and they want to make a plan to fix it. Men don't realize that not all things can be fixed, sometimes they just have to be waded through. So guys, don't try to fix something that can't be fixed. Also, even though it is great that guys like to be protective, women don't always want to be protected, most of the time we just want to know that if we needed protection, the man would be able to help. Women don't want superman, but generally speaking we want a man that can step up when asked.
And I don't know about the rest of women, but I have a problem. I make plans and state them once and then don't remind the man about them because I think he can remember the date and time I set a month ago. Men do not think about events the way women do, and in general while men can do the math, they don't remember the details. That is why they forget dates. Not because the date isn't important, but because they just don't have the capacity to record each date and time and event in thier heads. Of course, if they spent less time playing brain rotting video games, they might be able too, but good luck with that one.
I don't think all men and women are like this, this is just my perception of the ones that I know, which may be relative to the people I grew up around.
I've had a lot of coffee tonight so bear with me.
I have this couple of friends. The man is a good hardworking provider. The woman is a great stay at home mom who takes on jobs at times when they need extra money. This couple had a huge fight LAST May. They have slept in the same bed, taken care of the kids and house and bills, but neither has spoken more than a few words or kissed or touched since May because of the fight. What the fight was about doesn't really matter. My man and this man spoke, and what it came down to was he didn't want to talk to her because he thinks she doesn't care. I spoke to her and she doesn't want to talk to him because she thinks he doesn't care. They are both to proud to say to each other "I care about our marriage, how do we fix this" *which is something I could have said in my previous marriages*
Never let pride get in the way of opening your mouth and being honest about your life and your love with your significant other.
I doubt your grandmother hates you. Mabye she doesn't know how to talk to you anymore. Mabye she doesn't understand you. Mabye she is worried for you. But hate you? No. If she sent you a card, she doesn't hate you. The world you are growing up in is very different than the world she grew up in, and mabye that scares her. Send her a thank you card.