Is it me?

[weaveworld]

Apologies for this people but I just felt the need to add this new thread, seriously is it me? I am on one other forum and the most odd people keep talking to me, now don't get me wrong, I am the kind of girl to live and let live, the odder the better in my book but recently when I have been going on to this forum, its like everyone have a motive (does that make sense?). Like, what are you wearing, are you single?, you get the picture?

So is it me? I reply to everyone because I don't like being rude but maybe I should be telling them to hit the road!

Don't think bad of me, I am not here to judge anyone, but does anyone find this happening to them? This is great forum, why can't the other follow suit?

Apologies for my moaning - its my age and lack of personality!

Stay cheery

And the immortal (hope I spelt that correctly) line...... 'Hey Ho, Let's Go'

[willothewhisp]

Not happened to me - yet - but i'd be inclined to let rip with my evil sense of humour and see just how far up the garden path I could lead them before they twigged that one of us was extracting things.

[edott]

don't want to know what you are wearing not really concerned about if you are single or not. not sure why they are coming up to you on a forum. unless you have a sexy avatar or something. but i always figure people with sexy avatars are overwieght guys in their mid fifties. what kind of loser is trying to pick some one up on a sci-fi forum. just ignore them. now back to the science fiction and fantasy.

[weaveworld]

Originally Posted by edott

don't want to know what you are wearing not really concerned about if you are single or not. not sure why they are coming up to you on a forum. unless you have a sexy avatar or something. but i always figure people with sexy avatars are overwieght guys in their mid fifties. what kind of loser is trying to pick some one up on a sci-fi forum. just ignore them. now back to the science fiction and fantasy.

I don't have a sexy avatar, never tell them my martial status and I am not in my mid fifties but thanks for that - you are the business! And I am going to ignore them at all costs!

[weaveworld]

Originally Posted by willothewhisp

Not happened to me - yet - but i'd be inclined to let rip with my evil sense of humour and see just how far up the garden path I could lead them before they twigged that one of us was extracting things.

Good plan Batman....so how can I use my evil sense of humour to the best of its ability, I have to say, I have been letting down the auld side of evil humour goers

[littlemissattitude]

Weaveworld...My advice - and I always take it myself - is to just ignore people who ask you questions you are not comfortable with.

It's kind of like how I often ask people here who say they are from California what city or region they are in. I ask because I am also in California and I'm interested where the others are. But I understand that it is a sensitive question for some...how are they to know I'm not a stalker? So, I always frame the question with, "If you don't mind my asking...", and I understand completely if they choose to ignore the question or tell me that they'd rather not say. I've never had an e-stalker, but I did have one in real life once. It wasn't fun, and I can understand people not wanting to reveal personal information in so public a place.

*puts on moderator hat*

Also, if anyone ever asks you anything that you feel seriously uncomfortable about, either in a thread or in a PM, feel free to contact Brian or any of the moderators, including myself, about it. The forum is here to be a fun place, not a place where anyone is made nervous or feels threatened by things other users ask.

*/removes moderator hat*

The reason I love this place so much is that such things seem to happen so rarely here, especially in comparison to the frequency with which they happen on some of the other forums I've seen.

[I, Brian]

I think there's a general sense that because we are all effectively anonymous on this forum, then in more general discussions people will have a natural curiosity about the other people they are posting with, I guess not least to generate a more humanised perception of them.

However, as above, if you feel uncomfortable with anything, give us a shout - and it's especially worth pointing out that we don't allow this place to be treated as a sexual pick up joint. I take that very seriously indeed.

[hermi-nomi]

Hmmm.... I don't know about 'meeting' *wierd* people online in forums like these... I've never experienced that yet. But I have met slightly wierd people in real life. One experience that springs to mind is from the end of 2004 when I was on a ECDL course. The centre where I took this course also ran other courses for unemployed people, for people with learning difficulties, other training courses and all sorts. I got talking to this girl simply 'cos I sat at her desk (no where else to sit.) I'm in the habit of talking to people I'm in close proximity to ~ it's only polite in my opinion. But this girl really freaked me out with the things she was telling me and wouldn't leave me alone! Shefollowed me to break in the coffee room. And followed me when I joined some mates and said I was joining them for a cigarette (neither of us smoked). And so on.

I even went to tell one of the advisors about her, and the advisor said 'oh what, such and such girl? nod. nod.' The girl was standing right behind me, waiting for me! (even though I left to 'have a cigarette'.)

Well, a whole lot of trouble ensued after that and it's not really my story to tell. But a few months later I ended up undertaking another course at the same centre, and I got talking to another girl under similiar circumstances. Another slightly odd person. Yes, so maybe I should have known better, but I just somehow get talking to people. This new person was just the same in that they couldn't read my 'pee off and leave me alone now' messages. But this new person didn't worry me so much as the other girl had, so I bore with the slightly wierd conversations. Turns out that the new girl was friends with the old odd girl!

So, not exactly smarming over me ... but creeping me out nonetheless. Like I say, I've not had the 'smarming' on forums like these. The mods do a great job. I joined livejournal last year and the scope for creeping me out is a bit wider, but there are many measures in place that you can use such as screening comments and blocking ... the 'real' world is a lot wider as they say (puts me in mind of a song...)

So is it me? I reply to everyone because I don't like being rude but maybe I should be telling them to hit the road!

Perhaps we should just stop talking to people? But I notice that pixelated dreams says she puts it down to being confident. That's a pleasant thought.

[pixelated_dreams]

lol! i know exactly where you're coming from, i also seem to attract teh oddities of the people world! i think it's because i'm confident and chatty, so guys seem to think that makes a girl up for it!

it's not all bad though. I went to a meet up on another forum i use, met up with about 12 people... and a year later i'm living with one of them cant always think bad of the internet world

[Cosmo]

Never happened to me weave but i would just say. I'm not comfortable with these questions please stop. and if they continue tell a mod

[kyektulu]

I have experienced similar problems on forums and sites designed for meeting new friends, sometimes the messages I recieve are downright disgusting.
Fortunetly this site has been an exception, I have never found anything on here to my displeasure and that is why I am still a very active member.

Keep up the good work Brian.

[nixie]

Tell me about...I seem to get every weirdo going

[Adasunshine]

Aww nixie, that's not a nice thing to say about our preciousssss....

*mutters* or me for that matter *grumble grumble mutter grumble*

xx

[nixie]

The problem I get is with Yahoo messenger,I leave it logged on as I speak to my sister in law on there.Every now and then someone trys to speak to me through it, I made the mistake of replying once or twice that block button does come in handy.Haven't had the same problem with MSN

[Adasunshine]

I love msn, it only allows people you want to contact you to contact you - fabulous and you can even block those!!!

I use MSN more than I use the phone nowadays - sad but true!

xx