Can you date a non-fan?

[j. d. worthington]

Originally Posted by Nesacat

Yes we do Gully. I wish we didn't have to learn in this way but maybe that is necessary too.

Cat... this is the only way any living thing learns; it's the only way it can, ultimately (short of some divine being -- or future geneticist -- encoding the information into the genes). And, without it, we wouldn't take the chances or the risks that bring us so much joy (as well as pain) and advance the species. So, painful as it indeed sometimes is... it really is the best way for us to learn. (Which doesn't mean I don't weep and piss and moan when it happens to me same as everybody else; but it's still the best way....)

As for the general topic... depends on how much you, as well as the other person, are willing to respect (and, dare I say it? enjoy) the differences as well as the similarities between you. Some things will always be foreign to one or the other of you; some things you may learn to like and even relish in common; some you'll share to begin with. (While it's true that "opposites attract" quite often, in order for a relationship to work there have to be enough similarities for a decent amount of common ground. Otherwise, once the hormones quiet down you quickly fray each others' nerves to the point of sheer repulsion....) So... like so many things, it depends on the individual.....

[pyan]

Originally Posted by j. d. worthington

Otherwise, once the hormones quiet down you quickly fray each others' nerves to the point of sheer repulsion....

Nicely put, jd....and when that happens, it's usually too late to salvage anything......

[Leisha]

Originally Posted by Jaire

At the rate I am going I can't afford to say no to anyone. lol.

You read my mind, Jaire.

[Citadel]

Come on people! You live in the outer reaches of the world..but, there can't be a shortage!!??

[j. d. worthington]

Originally Posted by pyan

Nicely put, jd....and when that happens, it's usually too late to salvage anything......

This is, sadly, very true.... I've always preferred an "Ours didn't work out, but I wish you well" approach, but it takes two to make that work, as well....

[Leisha]

Originally Posted by Citadel

Come on people! You live in the outer reaches of the world..but, there can't be a shortage!!??

Let me see... I'm looking for an intelligent, thoughtful, kind, honest guy who also will put up with my room full of car models. Not to mention, well, a guy who can put up with me. Which is tough, let me tell you.


I think I lost half of the young population at the word "intelligent".

[j. d. worthington]

Originally Posted by Leisha

Let me see... I'm looking for an intelligent, thoughtful, kind, honest guy who also will put up with my room full of car models. Not to mention, well, a guy who can put up with me. Which is tough, let me tell you.


I think I lost half of the young population at the word "intelligent".

Mmmmm.... Puts me in mind of a class I took on creative writing in my senior year of high school. In the midst of being scolded for my stuff being so "down", I was asked why I wrote such depressing stuff. I replied: "Because we live in a decadent society." The blank looks weren't enough... someone had to actually ask the question: "What's decadent mean?"

In other words... I take your point.....

[Leisha]

LOL, JD. Trust me, I'm not proud of my peers either. I think each generation loses something (should I add "in the head" here?).


Hmmm... I should add that I'm joking, btw, before I get a big backlash of txt spkrs logging on to correct me...

[Joel007]

Its nice to have your own things as well as things in common with your significant other. My wife doesn't like SF&F, but she likes Harry Potter!?