The 'women' thread

[Majimaune]

Come on guys you know you wanted this thread. Crap on all you want about the woman or women in your life all you want and maybe get advise from others. It always helps.

[Joel007]

Didn't Scalem have a thread like this before?

[Lenny]

Similar, but not. I think it was more a Valentine's Day thread type thing. I might be wrong, though. I do know he discussed his girl troubles, and then it went onto Rane and his lady.

[Cayal]

No woman will ever want me. I have come to that conclusion.

[vampress13]

why wouldnt a woman want u?

[Cayal]

Why would they? I offer nothing.

I'm an introvert. I stay home and read and write and play video games. My idea of going out is to the movies or for dinner. I hate parties and clubs and drinking.
I cannot find anyone else like me as I am, or who likes what I like.

I am just not good around the opposite of sex. Never know what to say or how to hold up a conversation.

More over I get worried once they find out who I really am they won't like me.

Such a glowing resume.

[Lenny]

Originally Posted by Jaire

Why would they? I offer nothing.

I'm an introvert. I stay home and read and write and play video games. My idea of going out is to the movies or for dinner. I hate parties and clubs and drinking.
I cannot find anyone else like me as I am, or who likes what I like.

I am just not good around the opposite of sex. Never know what to say or how to hold up a conversation.

More over I get worried once they find out who I really am they won't like me.

Such a glowing resume.

We ought to start a club, or a Facebook group! No really!

And I reckon half of the forum would join, too.

[Cayal]

Well a woman, from Australia.


I have no doubt there are many people like me around the world.

We need our own country. Call it 'Introvertland'.

[Rane Longfox]

Originally Posted by Lenny

Similar, but not. I think it was more a Valentine's Day thread type thing. I might be wrong, though. I do know he discussed his girl troubles, and then it went onto Rane and his lady.

Very true

I do have "troubles" with my girlfriend at the moment, I will admit. Mostly down to uni being very busy (we're on the same course) and her work making her go in on saturdays and almost every sunday, when she's only supposed to work two sundays a month. This, on top of karate twice a week means she's almost always really really tired.

She's also even worse than me at talking about relationship "stuff", and isn't a fan of PDAs, so I've been feeling completely unwanted and thinking that she doesn't care.
Recently realised I've probably been a bit of an asshole about the whole thing, so I've told her that I'm sorry about it and I'll be more supportive and less demanding. Now, I'm hoping this'll improve things, even if it makes me feel crap in the short term. Need to resign myself to nto really being a couple for a while, I guess.

The problem is, uni is gonna be hard work all year, and her boss is a prime %&"%£*, so I don't see when it's actually gonna get any better Plus, she wants to do a year in industry next year. It just makes the future rather bleak... ah well. A couple of people have told me I deserve better than her, but she does make me feel great on the occasions we do get to spend some time together, and she tells me she wants to be with me, even if she never actually backs this up with actions. I'm guessing that she just hasn't had any proper long-term relationships before, and doesn't realise how important the small things can be.



Gah. I feel hopeless about it, tbh





Jaire - so? Do you assume that everyone are non-stop party animals who only are attracted to extroverts? Now, I thought that too for quite a while too, it's true, but it is actually a complete lie. The key is not to go looking for a relationship from the get-go. Just be friends with people. Try to cultivate the mysterious aura a little bit (but not too much!) and someone will be intruiged enough to be drawn in eventually. It's a lot more successful method for long-term relationships than picking up random people in clubs, I can promise you that!

[vampress13]

so? u sound like me, and im of the female species. I stay home and play games, read, listen to music, hang out with one person at a time.. and going to the movies is going out. i dont care for clubs, and rarely drink anymore. I don't know many girls like me, especially since i dont know anyone in australia.
and the keeping up a conversation thing.. it's cause you're too worried about what they'll think of the real you, you contemplate too much on what to say. if they fall in love with the fake you, then it wont last.
now, i know this may sound stupid and you may not believe in online dating, but i would try eharmony, that's how my dad and his girlfriend met and they are PERFECT for eachother. plus, if u meet online then eventually you'll start calling eachother, and get comfortable on the phone keeping up conversations and will eventually meet.
you sound like an awesome guy and im sure any girl would be lucky to have you

[ray gower]

Originally Posted by Rane Longfox

I do have "troubles" with my girlfriend at the moment, I will admit. Mostly down to uni being very busy (we're on the same course) and her work making her go in on saturdays and almost every sunday, when she's only supposed to work two sundays a month. This, on top of karate twice a week means she's almost always really really tired.

My apologies for being a nosey and the question can be considered rhetorical as I am not qualified to offer advice, but if you are on the same course, why is she having to work so much harder than you?
Either one of you is missing something important, or the circumstances will swap at some point?

A happily ex-married man

[Rane Longfox]

Originally Posted by ray gower

My apologies for being a nosey and the question can be considered rhetorical as I am not qualified to offer advice, but if you are on the same course, why is she having to work so much harder than you?
Either one of you is missing something important, or the circumstances will swap at some point?

A happily ex-married man

Well, I tend to do my work in short bursts, while she tends to try and do some every night... so I have more spare evenings as a result. She also lives near(ish) to uni, and works near there too, so at the weekends she has to leave at about 7:30 and gets back at 8ish, whereas i work in town at the Arena, so have shorter shifts, can pick and choose them, and take much less time to get there

[dustinzgirl]

There are many women who want a quiet guy to hang out and read and play video games with and snuggle up on the couch with. Not all girls are into fancy dinners and dates. As a matter of fact, my man and I first started dating all our dates were bowling and then we ate dinner at my house and occasionally shot pool at the bar, but mostly we played video games and watched movies at my house. We actually met playing pool at the bar, but then once we started dating we realized we both weren't go out and party types which worked out well.

There's someone for everyone.

[HardScienceFan]

yoohoo

Thanks Dusty

I had just about given up

[jackokent]

If there's a women thread should someone be starting an equivalent man thread or is thread doing for both?