[Cssndra]

Wow, Arya, I think you hit the nail right on the head. We infuse our young (here in the States, at least) with such a sense of mystery about sex that they have the idea that it's better than it is. I mean....the first few times I had sex I was like "is this IT???? this SUCKS". While physically mature at a young age, I didn't...um...know myself enough to really let go and enjoy things until in my mid twenties. So when I hear little girls in the mall giggling about this boy or that boy or what they've done, I have a sense of pity for them. They are wasting so much of themselves on nothing, and in ten years will regret what they have done....