Well, I wouldn't know about all women but I've never pulled on my braid. As you said, women and men do have different discussions when they are among their own gender. And yes, if the other ladies will pardon my speaking out on this, we do complain and bicker about men. Now we don't do this exclusively, but it is part of our nature to complain about men when we get together. I couldn't tell you why, but something a friend said to me once may come close: "If we didn't complain about anything, we wouldn't have anything to talk about." As always, this is a generalization, and we do speak well of men too - just like in marketing, the complaint gets a higher notice than the praise. So while we praise men probably as often as we complain about them, the complaints seem to get more notice and air time.
As far as The Wheel of Time ladies, it never seemed to me that they complained too much - basically it is the nature of the story itself to pit men and women against each other.
I also feel that Nynaeve is hard on Matt because she realizes the potential that he has and also feels somewhat responsible for his actions and thus wants him to live up to that potential and takes it out on him when he doesn't. She has a motherly feeling for him that makes her want to 'improve' him if you will.
Maybe because I'm a woman, this bickering and complaining doesn't effect my thoughts about the men in the story. I don't know, perhaps some other lady on the board could shed more light on it for you. All I know is that men don't listen